Friday night, the blowup of the century! (Story time:)
In this corner, a wife who is tired of hearing excuses from her husband, and him saying, "I'll do that" and he hasn't.
In the other corner, a husband who's preparing for surgery, but won't get paid for his work, or try to do anything to help out beforehand.
Wife made plea for husband to finally clean up the deployment crap and all his other crap Friday night, Saturday around noon when she finally gets up after he's left, nothing has been done.
Text messages were sent with no responses, one stating, "Don't come home tonight." A phone call was made without answer, finally as wife was leaving one of husband's hangouts, she calls again, he's at another hangout. She tells him, "I lost my keys, I need to borrow your copies of the apartment and car keys. " She arrives, he handed over the whole key ring, kept trying to get wife to go somewhere so they could talk, she refuses and leaves.
She refused to answer the door when he came home, but he came in behind wife's mother. Wife gives other keys back, continuously made the point, "This is her apartment and she purchased my car!" while pointing towards her mother. Wife went to work w/mother and forced husband to leave at the same time. Husband stopped mother on her way to her vehicle, wife yells out car window, "Leave her alone!" several times.
He finally did.
Wife goes to work with mother, hangs out for several hours, tells mom's boyfriend some details about what happened (he also lives there) then comes home.
The End (of that part at least!)
Yep, I kicked my husband out!!!
Big part of me wants nothing to do with him anymore! But a very small part says I should let him back until he recovers from his surgery.
A very small part.
I worry if I do let him come back to recover, he'll try to change my mind, and being the weak person I can be, I would probably end up taking his sorry ass back. I don't want to give him that chance! He thinks I did all of this because I don't want to take care of him. The point he kept making towards me was how he stayed by my side when I was in the hospital, and how several people told him he should leave me, but he wouldn't and how his relationships w/them are strained. If they really were friends or whatever, they wouldn't have done that! Apparently BQ never visited (I knew she was having car issues, and lived about 40 miles away), but I remember Buddy, some cousins, my dad and MIL. And obviously Vx and my mom.
He told me one person today, I knew she wasn't too crazy about me, I just thought it was because Vx helped her daughter out so much, she was worried that me being around, he wouldn't. He continued to be there, he kicked her rapist's ass, and had to get the a & b dropped before he could go to basic, which was no problem at all. The rapist had also visited the same recruiters Vx used, when they found out Vx kicked that guy's ass, they literally worshiped the ground he walked on. This woman loaned us some stuff for the wedding, set things up, but left before the ceremony! I haven't seen her since. Vx has talked to her a few times, I think.
The point I was trying to make is that he has done NOTHING since. He doesn't seem to make any money, we still live with my mom, he doesn't try to keep his shit out of the way, he won't get rid of any of it (says he can't since it belongs to the Army and they won't let him return it), and he's brought up other personal issues I won't discuss in too great of detail, I'll just say that I'm making an effort to fix this and the quick fix is something he refuses to do.
Just in these last several minutes while trying to type all of this out, he has texted and called.
Oh, NOW he does!
Anyways, he asked for his sleeping bag, I said no, he has slept in his car numerous times, its hot outside, so why would he need a sub-thermal sleeping bag?
So, am I a bitch? Is it too much to ask that we live in our own less-crowded place, like a REAL married couple? Is it too much to ask that my husband gets a real job, instead of trying to build up a business that partially involves people wanting to build houses or remodel them? Is it too much to ask to see the money that he's making instead of what he's buying with it? Not to foolishly hurt himself in some way every time I turn around?
Comments please!
